I’m going to go all Carrie Bradshaw on your guys this week. Honestly, guys and sex was one topic I thought I was 100% sure of, I even had a blog entry already written about it, but this weekend I had a first time experience that made me take a temporary turn towards dating confusion. Now I won’t get into too many details, but basically a guy I thought I was interested in and obviously thought he was interested in me, suddenly switched gears from acting like a gentleman to only being interested in one thing (if you know what I mean.) I use to believe that if a guy truly liked you, he wouldn’t go straight for the zipper.
Now a question continues to linger in my mind, “is there such thing as a grey space in between love (like/interested/whatever) and lust?” Instead of my normal feeling of knowing for sure what he was looking for, I started to think that all guys just wanted the same thing, aka sex. So I began my research going to the direct source of information, boys. Here’s how my guy friends analyzed the situation:
The first response I received was, “Um, yeah most guys just want to have sex.” Pretty discouraging if you ask me, I’d like to believe that the stereotypes aren’t true. so I kept searching for a more positive answer.
The second answer I got was, “Sometimes we just keep trying, then if you don’t give it up, you’re the one.” Honestly, I thought this was really stupid, but made me think, could be a test of character? This somewhat confirmed my unrelated suspicion that maybe guys are just trying to see how far we will go. This leads me back to the grey space question, is it possible that boys act first on lust and then on love?
So I asked one more friend who ultimately gave me an answer, the answer I certainly wasn’t looking for , but equally helpful, “I wouldn’t say all guys only want sex, but it’s definitely their first motive. Some guys just know girls will fall for that and use their charm to get in their pants”
I ultimately came to the conclusion that most guys are indeed sex-driven, and there isn’t a grey line between love and lust, at least not at first. First and foremost, most guys just want sex. My original theory that if a guy likes you he will show it (and not try to get in your pants) seems now quite uncertain. (since according to my recent reports, all guys want is to get in your pants.) And if all guys only want sex, how’s a girl suppose to prove she’s worth the wait? I guess you’ll just have to come back next week to find out how!
Boys, do you disagree with how you were portrayed? I’m sure us ladies would love for you to change our minds!