I’ve never understood why we need our friend’s approval before dating someone. Yeah, I’ve done it before, but I stopped that in junior high. Getting a friend to find your significant other attractive can only lead to trouble later.
I’ve always felt that if my friends thought a boyfriend of mine was very attractive, they would try to make a move during or after the end of the relationship. There is nothing more awkward and betraying then a friend dating an ex.
If a friend shows me who they’re dating, I’ve never said anything negative nor positive. I tend to say neutral and just say, “Okay, that’s nice.” I honestly feel like if I said that I think they’re dating a loser, which would only result in my friend dumping them as soon as the sentence was over. If I were to say I find her boyfriend attractive, then she would think I was interested in him. Instead, I’d rather they find out on their own. Once again, if they said that I would only remain neutral and say, “Oh really?”
If we really need an approval from anyone, I think it should be from our parents. They’ve been down the road we’ve taking. They can sniff a player from a mile away and would gladly let you know not to return that guy to their house ever again. Parents can be brutally blunt and I think that’s best when it comes to a relationship. Also if you plan not to take their advice at first and then the relationship ends, they usually don’t say, “I told you so [they more think it than say it aloud].”
I truthfully believe that a true friend wants their friend to be happy in a relationship. Save yourself the drama and suspicion. You should already know what type of person you like and trust your own instincts.
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