Before I joined a sorority, I probably thought like you. I thought sororities were full of dumb, stereotypical Barbie dolls who could only depend on daddy for money, or until they got their M.R.S. degrees and start depending on their frat daddies for money. For some sorority girls today, this is the exact case. They were born with a silver spoon in their mouth, and are too rich to think for themselves, so they play the “I’m cute” card. I joined Greek Life because my father is a former frat daddy and told me it would be a great “networking” tool for me, and since he was paying for school, I obviously obligated, a.k.a I had no option.
Now I thanks my dad, because I understand a world that most never will.
I have heard people who are not within the Greek system say that sororities and fraternities “pay for their friends.” Now in a way, it’s true. We pay dues. Dues go to amenities for the house and to nationals. We pay dues- that’s all. We don’t pay people to stand next to us at a bar and pretend we are having the time of our lives. That's pathetic, strange, and belongs on Craig’s List under “friend wanted.”
I know plenty of girls who have joined a sorority and don’t hang out with anyone in their own sorority. Although it might be irritating when these same girls call you the day of a party to ask you what the plans are, you don't say no, because they are your sisters. We are liable to one another. It’s shocking, but we respect one another. Respect that has grown from doing philanthropy together, seeing each other break down when they've lost a high school friend, and experiencing secret rituals that no one, but the former sisters of our chapters have participated in before.
Friendships cannot be bought in any organization, non Greeks included. Its the exclusivity of sorority life which causes people on the outside to be jealous and believe that we only joined to have people to hang out with. To all the haters, it sure helps to not be a loner when you have 175 other sisters, but do not be mistaken that it takes effort to build a relationship with one another. Not James Madison’s and wearing the same oversize t-shirt.
Call me corny, I really don’t care, but I will go to my grave for these girls (even the ones who used to run around naked upstairs in the sorority house). They will be my bridesmaids at my wedding and I might even name my first child after one of them. If any non Greek doesn’t understand friendship is deeper than money, then they have a lot of other issues.
I’m not saying sorority girls are wonderful or perfect, but respect the sisterhood. Even if we don’t have the same Greek letters, the sisterhood is a common bond we all share.
See you on the row.